Alone Time or Lonely Time? Tips for Finding Balance and Connection

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Have you ever felt lonely or been alone and wondered what the difference between the two is?

As someone who has experienced both, I can tell you that they are not the same thing.

Being alone means you're physically isolated from others, while loneliness is a feeling of disconnection or isolation from others, even possible when you're surrounded by people.

And yes, you can feel lonely even if you have a lot of people around you, because loneliness is about the quality of your connections.

A new advisory from the U.S. Surgeon General about an epidemic of loneliness in the United States and lacking connection can increase the risk for premature death. SAY WHAT!!!!!!!!!!

As someone who enjoys my alone time, I understand the benefits of being alone. I find it to be a time for reflection, creativity, and self-discovery. But being alone can also be tough, especially when it's not by choice. It can be uncomfortable, boring, and even anxiety-inducing.

On the other hand, loneliness is something I've struggled with on and off throughout my life. Feeling disconnected from others, even when I'm surrounded by people, can be incredibly painful and distressing. It's a feeling of emptiness and isolation that can lead to negative health outcomes, including depression, anxiety, and physical health problems. And at the time it doesn't make sense.

How can I be surrounded by all these people and feel so alone?!? What is wrong with me?

Nothing. Nothing was wrong with me...

Recently, the COVID-19 pandemic has brought loneliness and social isolation to the forefront of public health concerns. According to a study by the Kaiser Family Foundation, almost four in ten adults in the United States reported symptoms of anxiety or depression during the pandemic, with loneliness being a significant contributor.

Some more not so fun facts about loneliness:

1. Loneliness is a common experience. In a 2020 survey by Cigna, 61% of adults in the United States reported feeling lonely at least some of the time.

2. Young adults are particularly susceptible to loneliness. In a 2021 survey by the American Psychological Association, 47% of adults aged 18-24 reported experiencing loneliness, compared to 37% of adults overall.

3. Loneliness can have negative health consequences. According to a 2020 review in The Lancet, loneliness is associated with an increased risk of premature mortality, depression, anxiety, and cardiovascular disease. 29% Heart Disease, 32% Stroke, 50% Dementia

4. Social isolation during the COVID-19 pandemic has contributed to increased feelings of loneliness. In a 2021 survey by the Kaiser Family Foundation, 47% of adults in the United States reported negative mental health effects due to the pandemic, including loneliness and isolation.

5. Loneliness is not just a problem in the United States. A 2021 report by the British Red Cross found that over 9 million adults in the United Kingdom often or always feel lonely, with younger adults and those living alone at higher risk.

These statistics demonstrate loneliness is widespread and a serious issue that can have negative consequences for both mental and physical health. We must realize the importance of recognizing the signs of loneliness and take steps to address them.

So, what can we do to cope with being alone and loneliness?

When it comes to being alone, I've found that engaging in activities I enjoy, like reading or writing, can be helpful. Practicing mindfulness and meditation also helps me feel grounded and present in the moment. Getting outside and enjoying nature is another way to feel connected to the world around me.

When it comes to loneliness, I've found that reaching out and connecting with others is ESSENTIAL. Joining a social group or club that interests me, volunteering in my community, and taking classes or workshops are all ways to meet new people and build connections.

Of course, there's no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to coping with being alone or loneliness. What works for me might not work for someone else. However, research suggests that these strategies can be helpful in improving mental health and overall well-being.

It's essential to take care of our mental and physical health, whether we're alone or feeling disconnected from others. By practicing healthy coping strategies and reaching out for support, we can improve our well-being and build stronger connections with others.

In conclusion, being alone and feeling lonely are not the same thing, and both can be challenging experiences. By finding healthy ways to cope and connecting with others, we can learn to navigate these experiences and improve our overall quality of life.

Find the entire advisory HERE